Voices of our Ego

You should take pride in whatever you do. You should recognise that there is a right & wrong way to do things. There is always good & bad. There is perfection & there is sloppiness. If you are not prepared to do it right, then don't bother doing it. If you happen to be my boss, you should recognise that when you assign me to do anything, give me enough time & resources. Recognise that I have to teach & guide everyone in order to produce the best piece of work for you. If you happen to be in my team, recognise that your work quality reflects on me. So, do it my way, or do it somewhere else. If you are my spouse, remember to recognise me for bringing goodness & rightness into everything we do as a family. Most of all, respect me for my thoughts & opinions. I know how to do it right.

You should recognise that I know you better than you know yourself. I always know your needs even before you become aware of your needs. I will always put your needs before my needs. If you happen to be my boss, you must recognise that I will always sacrifice & help you in times of your need. If you happen to be in my team, recognise that without me, you won't have it so easy. You should always include me in your life decisions because I will be here for you, you helpless creature. If you happen to be my spouse, recognise that you need me. Recognise that you owe it to me. 

You should recognise that I am a smart, effective & competent individual. Not only can I do everything you ask, but I can also deliver them in the quickest & in the best possible way. If you happen to be my boss, you should count yourself fortunate because with my competency & effectiveness, you will have the best performing team within the organisation. Recognise me, respect me, reward me, praise me because I am a winner. If you happen to be in my team, you should feel motivated & fortunate to be part of a winning team. If you are my spouse, remember to always make me look good because how you look reflects on how I look to the rest of the world.

You should recognise that there is a specialness & uniqueness about me. I may not be sure what that is, but you need to recognise that I can't be the same as others. What I feel & do is usually very intense & passionate & difficult for you average people to understand. If you happen to be my boss, you need to recognise that the "average" rules do not apply to me because I am different & you must make allowance for me to be different. I am not being difficult, I am just misunderstood. If you happen to be in my team, try & live up to my self-image but recognise that you most probably will let me down. If you happen to be my spouse, recognise that everything needs to be simple & aesthetically pleasing, including you.

You should recognise that resources are not enough. So, I am only interested in spending my time & resources if the topics interest me. I am not anti-social or intentionally provocative or abrasive, but what I conceptualise in my head is far too difficult for you to understand, so stop wasting my time. If you happen to be my boss, recognise that I am not procrastinating, I just need to "intellectualise" & conceptualise things before acting on it. If you happen to be in my team, recognise that I do everything in my head. Speak up or ask if you don't understand. If you happen to be my spouse, recognise that I talk to you all the time, in my head. If you can't hear me, ask me again.

You should recognise that I am anxious & doubtful because things are not as simple as it looks. Recognise that I am always busy trying to stay vigilant & anticipating problems. If you happen to be my boss, recognise that when I procrastinate or being indecisive or overly cautious or evasive, it's because the situations have caused me to over-commit without sufficient clarity. If you happen to be in my team, recognise that if you are not working together with me, then you are working against me. If you happen to be my spouse, recognise that I may overreact or exaggerate problems because everything has overwhelmed me & made me feel helpless.

You should recognise that more choices & more options are always better. Recognise that I do not settle into anything too soon because something better is just around the corner. If you happen to be my boss, recognise that I am not irresponsible or impulsive because I abandon my schedules, plans & appointments. Recognise that it's because I feel that something more urgent, more important, more worthwhile has come up. If you happen to be in my team, recognise that I need to be on the go all the time, so you better learn to keep up with me. If you happen to be my spouse, recognise that I get bored easily so you need to build varieties into our lives.

You should recognise that it's not that I am forceful, boastful, aggressive or proud. It's just that I don't need anyone. If you happen to be my boss, recognise that I am the one who orders people around & openly defy anyone who attempts to tell me what to do. If you happen to be in my team, recognise that it's not that I like threatening you or intimidating you. Recognise that I do that to test your willpower to stay strong. Recognise that if you show your weakness, the world will eat you up. If you happen to be my spouse, recognise that I like to play hard, love hard & take risks to test & prove myself.

You should recognise that I can be passive, phlegmatic & complacent not because I am unresponsive to your needs. Recognise that routine brings peace & harmony into my mind. Recognise that your need for change & your anger drains me so I rather disengage from you. If you happen to be my boss, recognise that you can't just change routine as you please. Recognise that you need to schedule change. If you happen to be in my team, recognise that I like solutions that require the least amount of effort. If you happen to be my spouse, recognise that I may say yes when I meant no, so as not to cause any conflict.