Recognise how we are striving in our lives
Today, we are living in a vulnerable state. Uncertainty seems to be what is waiting for us. Change is a constant aspect of our lives, coming from all angles.
With all this volatility going on around us, our expectations, standards, outcomes and plans are constantly challenged.
For many people, what used to work for them may not be working well in getting the success they used to have.
And hence, it puts many of us in a striving mode - fighting towards our goals and plans. Eventually, our frustrations, anger, guilt and fears build up as we find that our efforts are leading nowhere.
As part of our self-defense mechanism, we want to appear that we are doing well, happy and successful in front of others.
At the same time, inside of us, we are experiencing increasing turbulence.
When we hold on to a striving mentality, we hide, suppress, ignore or avoid pain, struggles and difficulties. Yet, over time, it resulted in many people falling into mental health issues such as depression.
Therefore, it is essential that we can recognise the early signals of how we are striving, so we can start working on ourselves and bring ourselves towards a thriving mode.
Here are some possible signs you can look out for:
Coaching is multiplying your ability to thrive
Thriving is a space where you find that happiness, fulfillments, performance, higher levels of success and results flow, grow and expand for you, not by luck, but through constant inner preparation.
This inner preparation is where you go deep within yourself and start to work on your development as a whole person. The key here is engaging your whole-person development.
Many times people strive because they separate themselves into disconnected parts - silos. A common example is, people see that their work is work, personal is personal - work and personal life needs to be separated.
From a humanistic NLP coaching perspective, you have the resources, potential and ownership in you to thrive, grow and reach the next level of success. Coaching is multiplying your ability to thrive by bringing out the higher potential and deeper resources in you.
One begins to shift from striving to thriving when he or she moves from focusing on trying to control the external factors to develop their inner qualities. By coaching their human qualities, they enrich themselves with flexibility, choice and ownership in response to external circumstances.
At the same time, they hold a compassionate space for themselves when they are in a striving mode sometimes, recognizing that humans have flaws and vulnerabilities.
Thriving happens when you begin to embrace the side of you that is also striving. It takes an integrative and inclusive approach to thrive.
“You have the potential to thrive, without having to put down the side of you that is striving.”
Learn from the different professionals on how to make it possible to shift from Striving to Thriving
We like to share with everyone this recent webinar series: From Striving to Thriving.
A professional counsellor, Navroop Sood, who is also an NLP Practitioner from Mind Transformations hosted this empowering session. It was a meaningful and richly rewarding exchange among our Life Coach Certification trainer, Joseph Ch’ng and Jass Malaney, who is a Professional Leadership Coach with 28 years of experience.
In this session, the exchange includes:
Mark it on your calendar to watch this entire episode and learn from the various perspectives.
Let us know where you are in this spectrum and what are your plans to enable you to thrive more often. Send us your questions via < firstname.lastname@example.org >